31 March 2012

healthy in 2012

I haven't blogged since I left San Diego last year, as I have been going through some personal and family struggles related to health. Moving forward I inspire to regain my own motivation through various creative outlets: writing, yoga, dance, and possibly employment in a creative field.

My mom was diagnosed with cancer in her colon a little over a year ago. A tumor which was partially removed, metastasized through the organs into her liver. That then resulted in partial gall bladder failure/gall stones, because the enlarged tumor in the liver had blocked the gall bladder (so it can't be removed), and has caused a lot of additional pain for her. She has been on chemotherapy for the last several months to decrease the size of the tumors, combined with naturopathic treatments for healing (so her body is not completely depleted of all that it needs to sustain itself). Her sister (my aunt) has the same kind of cancer in her liver, and is not doing well right now, she has had cancer about 1-2 years longer than my mom. Unfortunately it is common on their side of the family (perhaps hereditary or a result of diet).

My mom's deteriorating health is the main reason I left Seattle and transitioned back to San Diego then Phoenix. I am not her caregiver, but she likes having me nearby (living in the same city) because as with anyone who is chronically or terminally ill, we never know how long they have left to live. I believe God will heal her body, per the power of prayer. I will feel better about moving back to Seattle after she is in a more stable condition, although not as if I can personally do anything for her other than to simply be here for her. Really we never know how long any of us have to live, whether ill or healthy - anyone can die at any time, health-related or otherwise - so its nice to be able to spend time with loved ones whenever possible.

This is also one reason why it is so important to always stay on good terms with the people in your life, never take anyone for granted, mend fences, resolve differences, and never hold a grudge - as a grudge or negative attitude can turn into cancer or other physical manifestations. Treat others as you would want to be treated, love one another as Christ loved us (His commandment)! Perhaps appropriate that I mention this during Lent, as we approach the Holy Week - filled with themes like Christ's death on the cross, resurrection, forgiveness, atonement, reconciliation. He died so we could be forgiven, healed, and eternally blessed - what a sacrifice!

When I lost my Dad unexpectedly a little over 3 years ago due to debilitating lung failure (Pulmonary Fibrosis), I was devastated. He was a kind, loving, and peaceful man, overall healthy for most of his life, but had rheumatoid arthritis which apparently spread to other areas (possibly affecting his lungs and breathing). We found out too late, he had already taken a turn for the worst. I loved my Dad very much - I did not expect to lose him so soon, at age 68. He was my spiritual guide, who raised me on a strong Godly and moral foundation for my own life. He served our country in the Navy, read his Bible daily, and he truly loved God and treated everyone the way Christ commanded we treat one another. Its hard to lose a loved one - but I lost the greatest man I have ever known. Unless we are holding the hand of someone on their death bed as I was with my Dad in his final moments, we never know when the last time we will see someone is.

Although death is indeed a part of life, I don't want to lose anyone else, I have been through enough. In recent years/months, I have also encountered many people who are not compassionate or understanding of the loss I've endured (they cannot relate, and/or are too self-absorbed to care about anything other than their own ego/agenda - sad). I believe those of us who have experienced some kind of loss (death, divorce, foreclosure, financial problems, health problems, etc) are supposed to go through such things to learn some valuable life lesson - different for each individual. Hopefully to draw closer to God in their own spiritual journey or to somehow become a better person, help others, and learn to value every moment spent with one another, to appreciate what we do have!

Circumstances come and go, for better or for worse, and life is a journey, a series of lessons to learn. We can love and support one another, draw nearer to God, or do the opposite by turning our backs on Him and on one another entirely. Life is indeed a journey but it is also a gift, a blessing. A positive attitude towards others will likely add more value (and years?) to our lives than harboring ill will or resentment. My mom continues to ask for prayer from friends, family, and various churches and ministries, please keep her in your prayers also. She is truly a prayer warrior, a woman of very strong faith. Overall she has been improving little by little with the chemo treatments, I believe she can overcome this! We sincerely appreciate all your prayers and support. Love and light!